Author: AnnNdugu

Just a couple separated by distance and hopelessly in love... with ourselves

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Travel

First solo travel! Scary or not?

girl seating on the road

Traveling on your own ensures you get yourself into situations that simply don’t happen when you’re traveling with your friends.
It’s sink or swim and you have to learn how to survive – who to trust, how to make friends, how to find you way around alone. That’s the greatest reward of solo travel: the personal growth. Each time you go away, you learn to become a little more independent, confident, and in tune with your emotions and desires.
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However, traveling solo gives you an opportunity to meet those good people every corner of the earth – those stranger people you meet at the airport, hotel owners, restaurant staffs, a never ending stream of good people who are equally curious about you, as you are about them and their country. You discover a lot of things about yourself – you’ll become a walker person😁 that you can see way more of the place when you walk 30km a day. That along the way, you didn’t even noticed it but selfie stick or self timer mode of your phone will become your new best friend! 😂 You’ll get yourself in the most authentic, ridiculous situations, things you’ll never forget, experiences to tell your kids about. It’s the true essence of travel and it’s a beautiful thing ones you can only truly harness when you’re alone.
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Traveling alone is never been a bad idea at all. I must say at some point of your life you should try it, you should do it, at least once! Because along the way, you learn so much about yourself, you develop inner confidence that you can’t find at home, nor when your surround with people you’re comfortable with. You become stronger, more emotionally aware yet also so much more resilient. You learn a new level of appreciation for the opportunities you’ve had and hopefully you realize that to waste them is a crime.😉 You find purpose in the freedom. All hugely positive changes in your being.
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Right now, I must say that I’m proud of myself!! And I know my husband is really proud of me too! 😘 I did it.👏 You know once you overcome your fears about being alone, you’ll soon realize that traveling solo is simply…. the only way to travel.😊

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Love

The trial and triumph of Long Distance Relationship

LDR is hard. There is no sugarcoating. No one is actually looking for a long distance relationship. Oftentimes the distance is a last resort, and anything but intentional. Being in a long distance relationship is a testing time. No one wants to be hours away from a loved one. If you’ve experienced a long distance relationship the endless struggle of seeing each other, making the late night phone calls, and keeping the fire alive is all too real.  And there’s always something special about long distance relationship. However, it can sometimes become a suffering as you long to see your partner and crave to hold each other in your arms. Just like any other long distance relationship plays out, we struggled, we grew, and learned to love in our own particular way. It was difficult, but we were committed from the get go to make things work out.  Along the way, I just learned that the secret is being optimism. The thing that will really make you strong is remembering that all this waiting is for something, that there’s a reward to this. And I guess seeing that significant other is the best reward.💕  So are you in the beginning, middle, or end of a long distance relationship? Be strong and take heart. If you’re in a committed relationship and serious about your partner, the time spent apart will seem minimal in the long run. Moreover, if you’re in it for the long run, quarrels and arguments will definitely come, the time spent apart will be grounded in the reassurance of love and respect.  

👉 LDR is possible. More than that, LDR can lay the solid foundation for long lasting love.   It takes time to grow together but you’ll find that distance, no matter how painful, truly makes the heart grow fonder.❣️❣️❣️

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Note

Sex, a necessity or an accessory to marriage?

I opened another note this week. Before I tell you what the note said let me tell you first what my thoughts was.

This was definitely a fun one. My first thought was: did she write this, or did I write this? It sounded more like something I would say. However, I can recognize the truth into it. Which begs the question how important is sex in a marriage? Is sex a necessity or an accessory to marriage? While I am sure that there are happily married couples out there that rarely have sex, I do believe that in the early year of marriage sex is very important. It enhances couple’s intimacy. I also believe that sex is a form of communication in a relationship. The act leading up to and after are all equally important. According to the blog marriage, sex release a powerful endorphin that flow through reward pathways in the brain, inducing euphoria and the feelings of love. Therefore, sex is both a necessity and an accessory to marriage. Couples just need to find what works best for them. As for me… teasing… yes… keep it coming please!

The note reads: I like teasing you because I love seeing how much you want me.

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Note

You have no idea the amount of happiness you brought into my life.

This was the second note I opened. I should know by now but every time I am surprise by the level of feelings that comes through her words. By nature, I am a touchy person. I communicate with touch. You can tell how close, comfortable I am with someone by the way I touch them. On the contrary, Wi-Fi likes to hear words. She wants to hear me telling her how much I love her and care. Unfortunately, I suck at this. The good news though is that I know this, and I am working on it. I don’t know how much happiness I bring into her life, but I know for sure that I want to bring even more happiness in her life. Is it going to be enough? I don’t know… but I pray for a life-time to found out.

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Note

When I’m with you hours feel like seconds. When we’re apart, days feel like years

I opened this while I was chatting with Wi-Fi on Skype. At that moment I felt all the weight of the distance between us. Apps like Skype make the distance feels a little lighter. But still nothing can replace waking up in the morning and seeing that beautiful face. Or the feeling I get when she steps on my feet (for no reason), holds me tightly as we dance to the most amazing song you can ever listen to in moments like these: silence. I have never wished for time to stop until she stepped on my feet. Those moments are so peaceful that it almost feels like nothing else exist in this world but us. Unfortunately, those moments seem to go by fast as if someone suddenly pushed fast forward. Thinking about those moments now make me wish for a time machine.

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Love

Girl dream of nice boy, girl gets bad boy

On our anniversary, we had a long talk and the distance didn’t make it easier. However, as it is the case most of the time, we talked about a lot and nothing. But one part of that conversation stuck in my head. Here is the account of that conversation.

M’amour: how does it feel to be stuck with me for a year? (for whatever reason, thinking about the song stuck like glue by sugarland)

Wi-Fi (laughing): at first, I was so excited

M’amour (laughing loudly): I can’t believe you were excited

Wi-Fi (defensive) no no… I really wanted to get married to you. You know… I had been single for a long time waiting for a good guy. I waited for it, I prayed for it and you came along I was like: finally. So I thought that it was really amazing. But it turns out, you weren’t exactly the type of man I dreamed of.

M’amour (bust out laughing) what?

Wi-Fi: Yeah! I got stuck to a man that is quite different from what I dreamed of. He is not romantic. You know… all girls want this kind of men. First, I really wanted you to remember all those special dates, special moments… but sadly, you always forget them.

M’amour (thinking to himself) You watch too many k-drama

Wi-Fi: you don’t remember my birthday, your birthday, our anniversary or the day we met for the first time. If I didn’t remind you, you will never remember. Secondly, I wanted a man who will post pictures and say good thing about us on social media like Facebook but apparently, you are not like that…

M’amour (laughing) so despite all that… why me?

Wi-Fi: even though you are different from the man I dreamed of, you love me and you show care not only for me but also my family; and those moment when I am grumpy and when I am having a hard time in my life, you showed a lot of patience.

It is always interesting where we end up in life. I am sure that Wi-Fi never imagine that she will be married to an African man. I never imagined that in a million years, I will be married to an Asian woman yet here we are. It might sound cliché (given that I have only been married for a year) but I truly believe that I have found someone to hold my hand and witness the rest of my life (the good and bad).

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Love

 ♡ Meeting your LDR partner for the first time ♡

With online dating now a thoroughly acceptable way to meet the next love of your life, it’s becoming more common for people to fall in love with partners who are on the other side of the globe. Now, there are no borders or boundaries when it comes to love.
When you’re going to meet with someone you’ve never met before, whether that’s someone you met on a dating site or a totally blind date – it’s normal to be a little nervous and worry that things won’t go well or work out. But when I saw my husband for the first time, I was in a mixed emotion. It was so awkward that I don’t know what to say or where should I start the conversation just to ease the awkwardness. But I found out that talking to him was so fun and easy.And along the way, I just knew for sure that his going to be my forever. I would never call it love at first sight (such a cliché), I just knew. I’d just never met anyone before who I felt such a bond the way I felt to my husband. We may had slightly different experiences but took away the same lessons and feelings from them.

While a LDR is hard work, that hard work can pay off. You shouldn’t give up hope of achieving your happily ever after just because you’re in a long distance relationship. In fact, you may end up with a deeper and more grounded relationship precisely because you have spent some time long distance. And if you are committed and willing to put in the effort, there is every chance that your relationship will succeed if you both really want it to

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Love

♡ Finding Love Online ♡

The Internet is a bittersweet place. It allows us to connect with each other in many ways. And being open-minded and putting yourself out there can easily daunting at first. But here you’re doing it in a safe environment where everyone is after the same thing: finding true love. Online dating has lost the stigma it once had – today millions of people are using it and it’s one of the most popular ways of meeting people.Why? Because it’s convenient.
I wouldn’t have met my husband if it were not for Internet. Now I will be celebrating my one year wedding anniversary. It was truly the most romantic mind-blowing experience that I have ever had. We we’re matched and actually spent hours emailing and talking on the phone. It was wonderful. I did not believe in soul mate until I met him.

So if you’re trying to find your perfect partner out there through the online platform, make sure you exercise caution. Make sure you actually know who you’re talking to. If they’re sketchy and don’t want to Webcam with you, or if they’re reluctant to share their private social media pages with you, or if they’re  not messaging you like the way they used to without any valid excuses or reasoning, then don’t do it.
Like any relationships, these online-first connections have their upsides and downsides–it’s just that the pros and cons are a little different. The worst-case scenario—spending months courting someone only to discover in minutes you’re physically incompatible—isn’t great. But then, in a world where we don’t have to leave our couches to meet a partner—no matter how far apart our bodies may be—the question of how far we’ll go to find a mate becomes more muddled. But more and more people are willing to go as far as it takes.

couple laughing together
keeping it light

We all deserve happiness and putting all your efforts and time in one futile online relationship that renders you with doubts, insecurities and endless questions is just not worth the heartache. Long distance relationships takes a lot more commitment and planning than any other relationships, because you have to plan your future around on how you’ll make it work. Remember, it takes two to tango and if you’re in the infancy of a new and exciting online relationship, don’t forget to evaluate how it will pan out in the long run. BOTH of you have to be committed, 110%.

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Love

The joy and sorrow of Long Distance relationship

Nothing tests a relationship more than distance. I’ve been away from my husband for almost a year, and it’s never been easy at all. You really need to adjust to not seeing each other for how many months…not being together when we needed each other most. But along the way, I definitely believe that being in a long distance relationship is something that every couple could benefit from going through. Not only does strengthen your relationship and test it – but the experience also strengthens you as an individual.

biracial couple
chilling before the wedding ceremony

– No relationship is easy or perfect. There will always be some challenges, but if the person truly means to you, whether that person is your partner, a friend or parent you have to work to fix things. Being in a long distance relationship has changed us individually and as a couple in many ways; good ways. We learned how to make things work, and gradually it got easier. Now we are extremely happy to have gone through all of this. Now we feel confident about us and cannot wait to begin the next chapter of our lives: being together anytime we want. Yes, being in a long distance relationship is difficult, but when it is with the right person, it isn’t half bad. It taught us a lot about ourselves, things we might not have figured out otherwise.

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Love

First Valentine

love note
Wi-Fi valentine note

When I opened this note, I was planning to write her a love note too. I had everything planned in my head. But after reading her notes, my mouth was wide open in admiration and I felt like I was falling hard in love with this woman again. However, I also realized that my note was not going to be any where better than this one. But after much thought, I decided to send my note anyway. I guess the thought that I took time to think about the note and actually write it count more than what was in the note. God knows that I am anything but romantic. While this valentine was lonely, it was heartwarming to know that someone (my Wi-Fi) loves me this much.